Week Nine: Newly Graduated, Depending on Those Around Me

I have made a mostly well thought out plan to move to Indianapolis in the next two weeks. To others it may seem rash and last minute, a plan of desperation if you will. I am moving to a new city with no prospects and no job (not even a temporary one) but one thing I do have is a fantastic support system in the form of my friends and family. This ‘career’ support system has been in place since the first day I started college as a wide-eyed freshman. My slightly over-bearing but well-meaning parents were my first supporters, my biggest fans. They were there to encourage me no matter how rough things got and tried to offer advice in times of need. I can honestly say I would be lost without them. When I first started college, I tried to be independent and act like I didn’t need them but quickly realized this was not the way to go. Family is a fantastic resource to have. You always have somewhere to stay, somewhere to do laundry for free and people who will love you and help you to the best of their ability. Not everyone may have such a great family and I realize I have been very fortunate.

When striking out on our own as young professionals, we may feel the need to distance ourselves slightly from our families. This may come from the sense that we’re finding ourselves and becoming real adults. We don’t need parents. Parents are for children. We are our own people!

This couldn’t be more wrong. Parents (and the rest of the family members) can be valuable connections not only personally but professionally. I’m not saying you should hit up your parents for jobs, but ask them if they can keep an eye and ear out for anything that may come along.

The next best support system is of course friends. Friends are on of the best networking tools to have. Friends like introducing you to their other friends (hopefully). Friends like going out and doing friend things. Friends try to help you out if you need it. The nice thing about college is that it will show you who you can actually rely on. The problem is that a lot of people don’t like to depend on other people. It’s that sense of being independent that I brought up before. Being dependent on someone is thought to show weakness, however you’re never going to get anywhere in life without depending on someone. Eventually you will have to depend on your team, your coworkers or your boss. Depending on someone does not make you weak, it actually makes you stronger. It gives you something to lean on, some time to take a breath and gather yourself again. You can’t do it all by yourself so if you haven’t learned to depend, now is the time.

The reason I’m blogging about my support system is because I will be relying on them a lot in the next couple of months. I’m moving to a city where I already have friends and my parents are about an hour’s drive if an emergency should arise. I will be living with one of my friends until I can find something more permanent. This friend actually offered to let me stay with him because he could see I was reaching that level of desperation. I was trying the tough man act where I would rely on nobody but myself. You can see how that turned out. So for the next couple of months I will be depending. I will be pushing and searching for jobs of course but I will also be depending.

Week Four: Newly Graduated, Taking the Rejection

Many of us face rejection on a daily basis whether it be school, work, family or otherwise related. Yes, it can be tough to stay positive in a world that is continually saying “no”, but the important thing is to learn from the rejection.

We’re all familiar with the phrases “Good things come to those that wait” and “Everything happens for a reason”. They’re right up there with “Something will come along eventually”. However, there is a point when you feel like strangling the next person who dares utter anything related to that because it doesn’t feel like those phrases apply to you. Constant rejection can lower your confidence and positivity levels and it’s hard to carry on under those conditions. Just yesterday I went out with one of my fellow graduated classmates for a bit of girl time/ranting session and she said she was feeling pretty discouraged about searching for a job. She had recently received several automatic rejection emails literally minutes after applying for jobs (let’s face it, those are the worst kinds of rejection emails) and it was wearing her down.

Rejection is a good thing. Yes, you read that correctly. Rejection happens for a reason. It makes us challenge ourselves and push ourselves further than we would normally. It forces us to take a good look at how we are presenting ourselves and our work. Maybe your cover letter isn’t professional enough and should be changed slightly. Maybe your website needs to be updated. Maybe, just maybe, you aren’t a good fit for the company. Personally, I’m glad rejection emails happen, even the automatic ones. That let’s me know that a company that wouldn’t even take the time to write a short note probably doesn’t care THAT much and that’s probably not an environment I would enjoy working in. So I keep on applying, I keep updating my cover letter and I keep working on projects. 

The only way to get over the rejection is to become better. Become so good that they can’t ignore you anymore. If you feel that you were rejected for no good reason, write an email requesting to know if they would be willing to offer some tips on your next application. Find out what you can improve on and become better at. Getting over the rejection will help you grow as a person and a professional. It shows that you’re determined to get where you want to go, that you have drive and passion about where you’re headed. 

So I encourage everyone reading this today, keep your chin up! Everything happens for a reason…

Week Two: Newly Graduated, Sort of Unemployed

This week I re-started my internship at the Liberal Arts Career Development office. Obviously I won’t have as many projects as I had during the school year, but it’s good to have some things to work on during the week. It keeps me motivated and keeps me designing which is always a good thing. I’ve also been applying to part-time jobs around town so that I’ll have some sort of income to keep me going during the summer.

In light of everything changing for me, I wanted to talk a little bit about having patience and not getting discouraged during the job search. Lisa always told the interns that if Plan A goes wrong, there is always 25 other letters in the alphabet. Boy, have I learned how true that statement is. My perfectly laid plans are always changing and not going according to schedule. I’ve had to learn to be patient and flexible with my planning. Everything may not happen in the time I want it to happen, but things will eventually turn out like I want.

For example, I came to college, a lowly freshman with hopes and dreams of being an interior designer. I was confident in my plan, I knew what I wanted (or so I thought). I could never have predicated that I would actually change my plans and double major in Graphic Design and Classical Studies. Never. I had my life planned out but things change and I have to admit, it was the right change for me.

Now looking at my career future, I have no idea where I’ll end up. I know where I want to go, but it’s important that I be flexible in my planning. Having goals in mind is obviously a good thing but always be patient when things don’t go according to plan. It’s easy to get discouraged when Plan A doesn’t work out but keep making those goals and keep making plans! Be open to new opportunities, locations and experiences that you weren’t considering before.